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Why Should I Get Therapy?

Literally everything my therapist says goes right over my head. I know she’s trying her best but in the long run I’m just another patient and I know that if she wasn’t getting paid she wouldn’t help. I have it so ingrained into my brain that I know that I’m a bad person and I don’t deserve to get better. I’m on meds and they don’t help and talking doesn’t help either. I know that I don’t deserve to put my happiness before others because other people matter more than me and I can just figure myself out later. I don’t deserve help and I know this woman doesn’t truly care so I don’t know why I even bother going anymore.

My husband struggles to set boundaries in our marriage (both in late 20s, married 2 years, together about 7). Is this “in sickness and in health” or something larger?

He knows (and I frequently remind him these days) that my giving love language is acts of service and it’s important to me that he lets me love him instead of shutting me down every time. I also don’t nag him when he tells me no. Lately I’ve even been thanking him for being honest to encourage him just saying “no I need to rest/I just don’t feel like it”. My receiving love language is quality time so it’s been a little hard with him saying no to a lot lately but I still remain supportive of him.

I’m a bit suspicious that he might be depressed and feeling guilty for not feeling up to doing things. We have had a very stressful year with strained family relations, moving, having to tighten our belts financially, struggles health-wise, the list goes on; Both of our mental healths have taken hits. I’m definitely not trying to diagnose him but I am concerned that he may be experiencing symptoms and not know it (he is moderately ignorant about mental health).

Has anyone experienced anything similar to this with their spouse? How did you support them? How did you love them?

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